Ragne's Abyss

Though I’ve been seeing many couples getting married on TikTok recently, I’ve also noticed the rise in “hookup culture”. I find many women in relationships with married men, both women and men going through relationships like a bag of skittles, and men treating women as dolls in their private collection. It’s been normalized to encourage women to have the same mindsets as men; dehumanizing men for the satisfaction of your own. It’s a twisted concept that is normalized in the media. We no longer are encouraging marriage, if anything, we’re demonizing it. Encouraging having everything but the ring and certificate. Men are having multiple “baby mommas” and women are becoming the “baby mommas” to men.

Though this isn’t a new concept, women have been the accessory to men for centuries, it’s now being labeled as a “power-move”. It isn’t, it simply isn’t. Wouldn’t it be far more powerful for a woman to live on her own without a man? Instead, what’s powerful is for a woman to treat a man exactly how they treat us. But, wouldn’t that be counterintuitive? I mean, sleeping with multiple men without your feelings being involved. Sleeping with multiple women without your feelings being involved. It’s all a gifting system; exchanging your body for theirs. Except, love isn’t a part of the equation. It’s simply trade for temporary satisfaction and a high risk of disease. Humans are intellectual creatures that shatter their own intelligence through the commitment to their stupidity. It’s like selling a diamond for five dollars so you can buy yourself a bag of chips that’ll be gone in the next five minutes. It’s a surplus notion that is over promoted, especially in the entertainment industry.

Many worship the entertainment industry, celebrities of all avenues. For a celebrity to glorify polyamory and deem it as a normal thing, it’s expected that the world will mimic what’s seen and celebrated. Even with saying this, I don’t blame celebrities. Polygamy has been honored throughout the centuries of human history. I feel that humans enjoy mimicking animals to an extent; especially since we do find ourselves sharing biological needs with them. Humans can not embody the same lifestyle many animals have due to the human mind being able to experience complex emotions and have the capability to think far beyond one’s self. Now that polygamy is considered illegal, the next option to still hold multiple mates would be polyamory. But why do people have multiple mates and refuse to marry? That runs into the topic of commitment.

Many would rather obtain the physicalities of relationships, like sex, from multiple people rather than having to commit and pour the emotionality that a relationship needs into one person. This notion is often housed in the minds of men, especially being that men, at least said by many, need the physical aspects of a relationship more than the emotional aspects. So, essentially, polyamory would be more beneficial to men than it would women. Though, polyamory is a waste of time, energy, and money for both sides of the coin. Our society is lazy, always looking for ways to make things easier, faster, and less expensive. We look for an easier route in absolutely everything; AI is a prime example of this. We’re no longer enjoying the complexities that we hold as human-beings. Many would much rather live life with satisfaction and without responsibilities. Yet, that’s unrealistic. Responsibilities always find themselves returning eventually. Life is full of obligations to one’s self and others; there’s no way around it.